Eureka

I'm known to ramble theoretically about real life things. So here's another theoretical thesis.

We all agree love goes through phases.. You have the 'Boing!' moment where you see someone and you feel light in the head. Then you have a crush.. (i'd like to meet the chap who coined the term. I want to have a crate of whatever he was eating or drinking that day. It must have been a guy. Guys are precise and to the point. Crush. Darn. Heck. Cool. etc. Simple guy words, conveying the entire meaning.)

After getting crushed you have the "impress" round. It works both ways. Girls flapping their eyelashes and putting their charming ways on display and guys flashing their muscles or motorbikes and relieving their parents of their hard-earned money to buy gifts.

Your sole desire in life is now to be with the other person, hear them speak and brainstorming with some poor soul about how to "get things going your way"..

Somewhere in between, comes a phase, where you love the other person so much, that you start feeling its best to start keeping a distance from them. You realise (s)he is perfect, what you have between you is perfect, and start feeling afraid that knowing each other to a greater degree will destroy all that exists between you. You no longer desire to "spend the rest of the life together until death do you apart".. Rather you now want the other person to have THE perfect life.. which ofcourse, you, now know isnt possible with you (because neither of you is perfect, remember?)..

Ok, Eureka moment over. What do you do when you hit this bend ? Do you spend the rest of your life pining for the other person and watch them marry someone else, or do you marry them, and after your first fight (hey. where there's a marriage there's a fight. Many fights.), start thinking the one you love might have been happier with someone else? The selfish part of me would choose to marry no matter what. The caring part of me might choose to let go rather than be the cause of any unhappiness to the other person..